Healthy Family System: Self worth is high. Communication is direct, clear, specific and honest and feelings are expressed. Rules are human, flexible and appropriate to change. It is natural to link and be open to society. Each person has goals and plans to get there, and should be supported by the family.
Rules in a dependent or addicted family: Dependents use of drug is the most important thing in a family life. Drug use in not the cause of family problems, it is denial which is the root. Blaming others, don't make mention of it, covering up, alibis, loyalty of family enables. Nobody may discuss problem outside the family. Nobody says what they feel or think.
Family Roles Lead to Codependency (Please visit Family Roles and Codependency)